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September 19, 2017

Self-Worth and Thought Awareness – #MTtalk Roundup

Yolande Conradie

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About This Week's Chat

“Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you're worthy of the trip.” 
Glenn Beck, American radio and television personality.

Nowadays, many of us see police or military patrols in our cities, as we visit tourist attractions or use facilities like airports and train stations. For some people, they're an unwelcome reminder of an unseen threat. For all, they symbolize our collective awareness that, in certain circumstances, we need people who are trained and alert to keep us safe.

Over the years, I've come to realize that I also need two big, strong "soldiers" at the entrance and exit points of my thoughts.

I need one to keep guard over what I allow into my mind: what I see, read, listen to, and talk about.  The other must watch for the harmful thoughts that slip out and threaten to ruin how I feel about myself. This sentry plays an important role in keeping my self-confidence, and even my self-worth, intact and strong.

Who Sees the Ugly Me?

I'm sure that I'm not the only person around who has "bad hair" days and "fat" days. What I've noticed, though, is that people around me hardly ever see the "ugly" that I do – it mostly exists in my head.

When I give such a thought the opportunity to grow, it seems to attach itself to my self-worth like a leech. Before long it starts draining me of energy and I feel as if everybody sees the "ugly me" that I see in my head. And before long I start acting as if that's the real me. Both my performance and my relationships suffer, as this poor view of myself spills out into the workplace.

The only thing that can change what happens "in the moment" is my conscious decision to shift my thoughts into a different gear. Instead of focusing on the negative things that I feel about myself, I have to remember that I'm still the same me that I felt so good about yesterday – even if my hair doesn't look quite as nice as it did then!

Self-Worth and Thought Awareness

In our Twitter poll last week, 35 percent of you said that you'd like to become better at mindful self-awareness. (See how our participants voted about other aspects of self-management they'd like to improve, here.)

During this latest #MTtalk, we explored the connection between how we think, what we say to ourselves, and how that leads us to feel and to perform. Here are all the questions that we asked during the chat, with some more of our followers' responses.

Q1. What is self-worth? And what is low self-worth?

@SayItForwardNow Self-worth is our assessment of the value we bring to relationships & to our work. When it is low, we need to understand WHY?

@NBlairHRDigital Self-worth is the lens which you view yourself through. Low self-worth means that you don't feel worthy of good things.

Q2. What is the effect, both personally and professionally, of persistently low self-worth?

@EdNavigation Impacts relationships, families, work. People either find you draining or prefer not to engage. And depression may emerge.

@tweetgayusri Persistent low self-worth is like having diamonds in hand and begging others for food.

Q3. How do you know when your self-worth or the self-worth of others has been affected? What are the signs?

@Yolande_MT Someone with affected self-worth is often critical. The less you like yourself the more you criticize other people.

@VinceSkolny There are as many manifestations of robbed self-worth as individuals robbed of it. One consistent behavior underlying them: those robbed of self-worth always seek approval from others.

Q4. Are some people more susceptible to low self-worth than others? Why?

@SanabriaJav I think a person's background such as their socioeconomic upbringing can affect their self-worth. There are many variables.

@Jikster2009 I believe we are all susceptible due to any given life event, however those who tend to suffer social anxiety/depression more so.

Many participants commented on the effects of what we hear about ourselves while growing up, including:

@harrisonia Yes! Those who grew up in (or still live in) abusive or emotionally unbalanced homes can be more susceptible to low self-worth.

Q5. Can you influence someone else's self-worth, or only your own?

@WonderPix I think we can help fill others' buckets, but they have to repair the holes so it doesn't leak out.

@BrainBlenderTec You can influence someone's self-worth by comments, gestures, or even expressions that build them up or tear them down.

Q6. What is thought awareness?

@JKatzaman Thought awareness is knowing you don't operate in a vacuum. Your thoughts carry over to your actions, which cascade over others.

@d78stock Thought awareness – the ability to be aware of what your thoughts are (negative or positive), how they impact on self and others.

Q7. How can you become more aware of your predominant thought patterns?

@work_it_brum Self-care. Is it daily list making? Is it meditating? It will be different for everyone, but taking the time will help you focus.

@MurrayAshley Through observing them and also trying to see what triggered them.

@MicheleDD_MT Get curious about what are the facts behind the story you are telling yourself. What’s really going on?

Q8. What's the connection between self-worth, thought awareness and self-talk?

@Midgie_MT Negative self-talk can lower self-worth. When you are not aware of what is said, it can bring you down. Becoming aware helps.

@Jikster2009 They are all connected by our perceptions/mind talk and internal thought processing.

Q9. When and why should you pay extra attention to your self-talk?

@manavlalotra If the TALK is turning into NOISE – stop right there and clear the noise. Negative self-talk is as effective as positive, but it harms!

@KarlaRevolution During challenging times. This is when our thinking can be the worst. If we can change in those moments the rest are easy.

Q10. What helps you to shift the negative self-talk towards more positive self-talk?

@jeremypmurphy We must stop our meaningless complaining and fill our brains with confidence through positivity and inspiration.‬

@temekoruns It's easier to shift negative thinking after recognizing there are other people in worse situations doing better.

@cdemgo Going over my diary and reviewing how I overcame challenges in the past. Journaling helps to reflect and maintain perspective.

Next time on #MTtalk...

When you know your self-worth, and can recognize the value of other people, it's easier to get along with them. What do you think is most important when communicating to connect? Cast your vote in our poll over here.

In our next #MTtalk on Friday, September 29, our topic is "Connecting at Work." To share your thoughts and ideas, please join us at 1 p.m. EDT/ 5 p.m. GMT/ 10:30 p.m. IST. Simply type #MTtalk in the Twitter search function. Then, click on “All Tweets” and you’ll be able to follow the live chat feed. To take part in the conversation, include #MTtalk in your tweet and it will show up in the chat feed.

Self-Worth and Thought Awareness Resources

In the meantime, here are some resources that will help you to learn more about self-worth and thought awareness:

Self-Mastery

Using Affirmations

Perfectionism

Journaling for Professional Development

Dealing With Anxiety

Overcoming Impostor Syndrome

Beating Self-Sabotage

Are You a Positive or Negative Thinker?

Self-Determination Theory

Cognitive Restructuring

Developing Self-Awareness

Stress Diaries

Thought Awareness, Rational Thinking and Positive Thinking

Mindfulness

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