Do you grab a snack at your desk, or are you a "foodie," savoring every bite?
We each have our own unique relationship with food – but one thing we share is that, sometimes, we have to eat at work. And it can be awkward and uncomfortable to have your personal eating habits on public display, especially if you're watching your weight or trying out a new diet.
There's the guy who can't resist remarking on his vegan colleague's "rabbit food." Or, on the opposite end of the scale, the know-it-all who tells you, just as you bite into a bacon muffin, how processed meats can lower your life expectancy. And were you just imagining those raised eyebrows when you took a second croissant at the morning meeting? But what you eat is your own business, and being in the office shouldn’t change that.
So, here's our guide to the dos and don'ts of office food etiquette – how to feel good about what you eat, and how to make sure your co-workers feel good about it, too.
Do… Be Sensible About Food
If you're trying to eat more healthily, the increasing amount of free food at work can be a mixed blessing – especially if it mostly consists of biscuits, cakes and other tasty treats. Exercise some self-control: sit away from the cookie jars, or ask that they be moved to the break room so that you can avoid temptation. And be sure to bring your own healthy snacks from home to satisfy your hunger and distract you from the sugary alternatives.
And, if you're working with someone who's on a diet, be respectful of his or her choices. You may not want, or feel the need, to measure your own food intake, but there's no need to flaunt it. Be considerate. You might appreciate the same treatment further down the line.
Do… Be Kind to Yourself Around Food
Now, I don’t just mean that you can forgive yourself for the occasional calorific slip-up – although, let’s be honest, the odd cookie doesn’t have to derail your entire diet. But, more importantly, look at your mindset. The trouble with negative self-talk around food is that it can leech into other parts of your life, including your job. It can make you feel low, which can impact the quality of your work. It can also make you feel out of control if your diet lapses.
The best way to keep in balance is to set realistic goals around food, and to enjoy what you eat. Dietitian Aisling Pigott argues that living by moderation rather than deprivation is the way to go. As soon as you start to deny yourself certain foods, she says, you will feel “hard done by” and therefore more likely to rebel. So, try to make sure that eating remains a positive experience for you.
Be kind to your co-workers, too. Whether or not you consider that they need to lose weight, keep those thoughts to yourself. Try not to encourage them to have “cheat days,” but don't judge them if they do.
Do… Plan Ahead
Why wait until lunchtime to work out what you’re going to eat? Bring in your own food instead! Tasty packed lunches are a great way to eat healthily at work. Research from Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health suggests that people who cook at home "consume fewer carbohydrates, less sugar and less fat than those who cook less or not at all – even if they are not trying to lose weight." It’ll save you money, too.
Try making extra dinner the night before, and bring in the leftovers the next day. Or, if you’re feeling super organized, use your weekends to prepare meals for the week ahead. A supply of frozen home-cooked meals also makes for a great shortcut on those “lazy” evenings.
If you're having a team lunch, do your best to find a restaurant that caters to everyone's requirements. And, if you often have food in your meetings, try to choose healthier options. They'll benefit everyone, not just your diet-conscious colleague.
Don't… Snap at People
Imagine it's you who's on a diet. As much as you might like to scream at Grace from HR for offering you a slice of her birthday cake, remember that you're at work. Keep a cool head – you don’t want to be thought of as some kind of monster because you shouted at the new guy for handing around a box of chocolates. Come to think of it, have you even told your colleagues that you're counting the calories?
On the other hand, if you've been on the receiving end of your manager's diet-fuelled tantrum, try not to take it to heart. Rather than flying into a rage, consider the cause of your boss’s short temper. But, if it becomes a regular occurrence, or it escalates into something more serious, such as extreme rudeness, don’t be afraid to speak up.
Don't… Try to Convert People
So, you're making great progress with your new diet. You feel great. And you want everyone to know about it so that they can feel great, too. But remember, what works for you won’t necessarily work for everyone.
Recent studies show that “diet response is highly individualized.” In other words, your diet may help you to ditch those pesky pounds, but your co-worker may actually gain weight on the same regimen. If someone asks for your advice, by all means offer suggestions based on your experience. But take care not to impose your views where they’re not wanted.
Don't… Take It Too Far
The workplace isn’t the best place to experiment with a new crash diet. Restrictive regimens such as cleanses and fasts can severely impact your energy levels and mood. They can be a shock to the system – and a shock to your colleagues, if you suddenly become grumpy and irritable. So, before you jump on the next "miracle diet" bandwagon, think about the practicalities.
Also, remember that some "fad diets" can pose risks to your health, so it's always best to consult a doctor or trained health professional before you make any big changes to your diet. And some diet plans have been criticized for identifying certain foods as inherently "bad," an attitude that can have harmful consequences for people who are susceptible to eating disorders.
If you think that a colleague has a serious issue with food, take cautious action. Speak to them in private – but remember that food can be a highly sensitive subject. At the very least, many people won’t take kindly to being criticized for their choices. So, tread carefully, and if you’re genuinely worried, but unsure how to broach the subject, speak to their line manager.
Have you ever struggled to change your eating habits at work? Or, do you have any tips or advice on office food etiquette? Tell us about your experiences in the comments section, below.