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Criticism Can Empower

October 27, 2014

Truth-Doesn't-Have-to-Hurt-cover_80x120I recently took some kite-surfing lessons with a private instructor.

It’s not the easiest of sports but I was determined to make the most of my three-day course, so I listened intently as my teacher told me where I was going wrong, and I was quick to act on his advice.

When it comes to my work, however, I may not be quite so open to negative feedback.

Deb Bright’s book, “The Truth Doesn’t Have to Hurt,” encourages me to embrace criticism, rather than fear it. Bright explains how we can use criticism to raise our game, and offers a framework for giving and receiving criticism in a way that leaves everyone feeling inspired, instead of demoralized.

Here’s a clip from our review of this book, where we hear how to receive feedback without getting emotional:

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Question: How do you feel when you are criticized? What are your tips for giving constructive feedback? Join the discussion below!


5 thoughts on “Criticism Can Empower

  1. Matilda wrote:

    Hi well if am criticized i do feel bad n ashame i have to work on my confident very hard

  2. YolandeMT wrote:

    Hi Matilda

    I wonder if it will help you if, in your mind, you can see the criticism as comment on what you did and not on who you are? That way you can maybe look at what you got criticised on, how you can do it differently from now on and see it as a learning process.

  3. Irfan wrote:


    Does it depend on the level of your expertise when you receive critism? If you are a novice and recieved critism then you are far more welcoming and acts as a motivator. If you are at an advance stage, you are far more reluctant to want critism.

    Best form of feedback has to be a feedback sandwich. Also be truthful to the point, don’t beat around the bush. Works specifically well with trainee teachers…

  4. J. wrote:

    Personally I don’t have a problem with criticism, but do have a concern when the criticism is not accurate.

    1. Midgie Thompson wrote:

      I’m with you J in that I will accept criticism and feedback yet what I struggle with are the broad generalizations and things where there are no facts to back up what the person is saying. – Midgie, MT

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