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Anger is a perfectly normal emotion. It's so powerful that it can move people to do great things. But misplaced or frequent anger can destroy your relationships, limit your creativity, and even damage your health.
There are lots of potentially anger-inducing situations at work: from the frustration of your computer not working properly to the bitterness of losing your job.
So, how do you manage anger? This is where Drs Redford and Virginia Williams' 12 Strategies for Controlling Aggression are very useful. When you have these strategies in your toolbox, you can lessen your chances of getting angry, and manage your emotions when you do.
So, let's look at how you can control anger more effectively.
Sometimes, the hardest step is to acknowledge that there is a problem, but it is important to do so, as this helps to strengthen your intention to better manage your anger.
Next, download our Hostility Log worksheet and use it to identify what makes you angry.
It's also a good idea to let the important people in your life know that you're trying to change your behavior, and ask them for their support. So, whenever you find yourself getting angry, interrupt the moment by thinking, "Stop!" Focus on the facts of the situation, or force yourself to picture something calm and enjoyable. Then, use empathy to see the situation from the other person's perspective. And you could even learn to laugh at yourself to defuse the tension!
