Building Self-Confidence Video

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Build your self-confidence
with James Manktelow & Amy Carlson.

James Manktelow: Hello. I'm James Manktelow, CEO of, home to hundreds of free career-building tools and resources.

Amy Carlson: And I'm Amy Carlson from Mind Tools. A lack of confidence can have a serious negative effect on your career. It's hard to convince others of your ability when you feel like a bag of nerves inside. The good news is, self-confidence can actually be learned. It takes time and effort, but it's worth it - for the huge difference it will make to your life.

JM: There are three steps to building your self-confidence. The first involves getting ready for what can be compared with a "journey." You need to take stock of where you are, and think carefully about where you want to go. Start by making a log of your top achievements so far. Lay these out in a well-formatted document, and look at them often, so you can enjoy the success you've already had.

AC: In this preparation stage, it also helps to set some targets – or goals – to clarify what you want from your life and career. Your goals should be both long-term and short-term, and you should be able to measure them, to get a real sense of what you've achieved. You can find out more about goal setting at

JM: The last part of the preparation stage is to get into the right mindset. You need to be aware of any negative thoughts that may destroy your confidence – and nip them in the bud. Make a clear promise to yourself that you're absolutely committed to this journey to self-confidence, and vow to do everything in your power to get there.

AC: Stage two is about setting out on that journey. Take small steps to achieve your goals. For example, if you need to learn some new skills, take a class. Just focus on doing simple things well.

JM: In stage three, you can begin to see the process working. You'll be able to feel your self-confidence build as you achieve your small goals, one by one. In time, you'll be able to stretch yourself. Make your goals a bit bigger and your challenges a little tougher. The more you achieve, the more confident you'll feel.

AC: Throughout this whole process, it's important to stay grounded in reality. Self-confidence is a great asset, but over-confidence can be just as destructive as no confidence at all. So make sure you get the balance right.

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  • Over a month ago bigk wrote
    Hi bigboss

    What is your motivation to do programming?

    Is this because you have good math and you could use this skill with programming?
    There other ways to use math like accountancy or audit and engineering.

    However if you mean the math element is a strength and you want to quickly add extra items to your skill set then math and programming do fit together.

    Programing does need team interaction skills but if you want to fit in the team and have a manager or leader to develop your team skills or improve your own personal or team skills this will need you to use your strengths to develop these skills while doing something that interests you.

    You can develop not only your math skills but use these strengths to develop your other skills although you see these at present as a skill to be developed and not a skill that is immediately available or useable by you in a team setting.
    If this is not one of your motivations or is useable in the work setting, you might want to find a way to become confident and position your skills to improve what you feel about team work.

    A team lead might want to use your math or programming skills but will still want to find ways to use your team interaction skills and use of your valuable team member skills but will want to understand what or why you feel you feel you have no team or self interaction skills to use with the other team members.

    A team needs it's members to interact together, software development is no different although the specialist skills required to develop software might need social and interaction skills rather than just technical skills, to be useful to each other you will need to become more confident about positioning your team member skills to be able to interact with other team members.

    Remember you need to find ways to develop these skills although your main efforts might be towards developing the programming skills to do the job.

    Is there a particular issue you feel you need more development with interacting or is this a question about confidence or the positioning of your technical or social skills?
    If this is the people or team skills you want to develop further while being able to focus mostly on the technical skills needed to develop software, you will need to consider how you position these skills to the work area?

    Happy to offer more help if I can do so...

  • Over a month ago bigboss wrote

    I have done my own SWOT analysis.

    One of my strengths is math, and my weakness is social interaction and copywriting.

    So I think could software building or programming be the "right brand" and "righ career" for me?

    I have (of course) used computer, but I have no experience or education in software building or programming. (And of course this is the reason why I ask this question).
  • Over a month ago Helena wrote
    Hi Zaheer

    You've obviously got a good grasp already of how the results of a SWOT analysis can provide their own solution - as you say:

    How do we use the strengths with the opportunities, strengths to beat the threats etc..?

    A good way to start figuring this out is to use TOWS analysis which will show you how to figure this out. Our article on TOWS analysis is here: ... STR_89.php

    Best wishes

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