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Brink Or Swim! "It's Not My Fault!" - Managing Victims
"Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality." ∼ U.S. author John Gardner (1933-1982)

People who refuse to take responsibility for their problems, or who blame others for them, can create a toxic atmosphere on your team.

You need to nip their behavior in the bud, and make sure that they don't damage productivity. You can find strategies for doing this in our articles, Managing a Person With a Victim Mentality and How to Manage Passive-Aggressive People.

"Victims" believe that their destiny is in the hands of outside forces, and you can learn more about this in our quiz, Locus of Control.

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Managing a Person With a Victim Mentality Managing a Person With a Victim Mentality

Learn how to manage team members who won't accept accountability, and who blame others for their problems.

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How to Manage Passive-Aggressive People How to Manage Passive-Aggressive People

Use these strategies to neutralize the harmful effects of passive-aggressive people.

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Locus of Control Locus of Control

Take this self-test to find out whether you have an internal or an external locus of control.

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Find out how to manage defensive people effectively by building trust.

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A Final Note

One of the frustrating things about managing people with a victim mentality is that they may block your attempts to help, as they likely get a "kick" out of the attention that they get. But handle the situation with care - you don't want them to interpret your actions as bullying!

Next week, discover an effective framework for creating and delivering products that your customers really want, and learn how to become a more confident public speaker.


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