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Need Feedback, But Afraid to Ask?

April 23, 2014

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You need to get plenty of feedback to grow as a professional, however it can be nerve-wracking to give or receive it.

After all, what if it is negative, upsetting, or of a personal nature?

Our article on Stop – Keep Doing – Start explores a tool that you can use to get or give feedback in a quick, reassuring, and action-focused way. This helps you ensure that giving and receiving feedback is constructive and beneficial – not scary.

Find out more about it here.

You can also learn other approaches for giving feedback in our articles on Giving Feedback and The Situation – Behavior – Impact Feedback Tool; and you can put your feedback skills to the test with our quiz: How Good is Your Feedback?

Question: What were the best and the worst pieces of feedback you ever received? Has someone ever given you feedback that changed your attitudes or behavior forever? Join the discussion in the comments below.


5 thoughts on “Need Feedback, But Afraid to Ask?

  1. YolandeMT wrote:

    Worst feedback I received was that I am haughty/unfriendly! It was really untrue and a very biased bit of feedback, BUT: it has taught me to be aware of how I look to other people at any given time. Because I know what’s in my heart, I may not concentrate on how I look to others and thereby convey a wrong message through body language or facial expression.
    Even though I felt the feedback was unfair and unjustified, I definitely learned a valuable lesson from it. (It was 15 years ago and it has influenced me to this day!)

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  2. Bree wrote:

    I’ll never forget the feedback years ago saying I was unprofessional! When I pride myself in being very professional! What I learned was to decide whether I respect the person giving me the feedback, whether there is an element of truth (perhaps in some instances I was less than professional), and understand the reason why it pushed my buttons so much.

  3. Viney wrote:

    That’s a brilliant answer to an interesting question

  4. Ruth Hill wrote:

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