Preserving Integrity

Consistently Making the Right Choices

Preserving Integrity

Make the right choice every time.

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You do not wake up one morning a bad person. It happens by a thousand tiny surrenders of self-respect to self-interest. – American writer, Robert Brault

Nancy's boss has just let her know that her client's order is about to leave the company's warehouse. As she picks up the phone to call them, he tells her there's a problem.

"The shipment was damaged by someone on our warehouse team," he says. "There are some dings, but this shouldn't affect the product's performance. If they complain, we'll blame it on the trucking company that delivered it to us."

Nancy pauses, feeling uncomfortable. "But didn't our warehouse crew damage the product?" Her boss shrugs. "Yeah, but the customer doesn't know that. I'll just file a claim now, saying it was damaged on delivery. Don't worry, the client won't even notice the damage."

Nancy's boss walks out and she sits at her desk, unsure what to do. She knows it's dishonest to blame the damage on the trucking company. It's also dishonest to deceive her client, and give them a less than perfect product.

Many of us have to make decisions that define who we are and what we believe in. Most often, the choices we face may seem insignificant. But this doesn't mean that they're not important to us: even the smallest action can have an impact on our self-respect, our integrity, and ultimately, our reputation.

In a world where headlines are often dominated by people who make the wrong choices, people who make the right ones can seem to be rare. However, it feels good to live and work with integrity, and when we become known for this highly valued trait, our lives and our careers can flourish.

In this article we'll examine what integrity is, and we'll see how we can develop it and preserve it by making the right choices in life.

What is Integrity?

Integrity is a characteristic that many of us value in ourselves, and it's one we look for consistently in our leaders. But what does it really mean to have integrity?

The Random House Dictionary defines integrity as:

  1. Adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.
  2. The state of being whole, entire, or undiminished.
  3. A sound, unimpaired, or perfect condition.

Although the definition is sound, it can be a bit more complex to define integrity in our everyday lives.

You could say that integrity is always doing the right thing, even when no one is looking, and even when the choice isn't easy. Or, you might see integrity as staying true to yourself and your word, even when you're faced with serious consequences for the choices that you're making.

Alternatively, look at the second and third of these definitions. These were likely meant for structures, such as the integrity of a building. But we can just as easily apply this definition to ourselves. When we have integrity, we're whole and in perfect condition, and we're not compromised by awkward "inconsistencies."

When we live our lives with integrity, it means that we're always honest, and we let our actions speak for who we are and what we believe in. Integrity is a choice we make, and it's a choice we must keep making, every moment of our lives.

Why is Integrity Important?

There are several reasons why integrity is so important.

First, living a life of integrity means that we never have to spend time or energy questioning ourselves. When we listen to our hearts and do the right thing, life becomes simple. Our life, and our actions, are open for everyone to see, and we don't have to worry about hiding anything.

When we have integrity, we gain the trust of our leaders, our colleagues and our team. We're dependable, and, when we hold ourselves accountable for our actions, we become role models   for others to follow.

All of this, in turn, directly impacts our success in life. People who live and work with integrity are more likely to be considered for promotions. Why? Because integrity is a hallmark of ethical leadership   – organizations want leaders that they can trust, and when you demonstrate integrity, you show everyone you can be trusted.

How to Develop and Preserve Integrity

The reputation of a thousand years may be determined by the conduct of one hour. – Japanese Proverb

Your integrity is what determines your reputation, and, just as this proverb states, all it can take is a single bad choice to destroy a lifetime's worth of integrity.

So, how can you work on developing and preserving your own integrity?

Step 1: Define Your Values

You can't live by values if you don't know what you truly believe in. So, start by defining your core values  . These are the values that, no matter what the consequence, you're not going to compromise on.

Step 2: Analyze Every Choice You Make

Often, people cut corners or make bad choices when they think no one is watching. Having integrity means that, no matter what, you make the right choice – especially when no one is watching!

You'll usually know what's right and wrong, although sometimes you might need some quiet time to figure it out. If you're not sure what the right choice is, ask yourself these two questions:

  1. "If my choice was printed on the front page of the newspaper for everyone to see, would I feel OK about it?"
  2. "If I make this choice, will I feel OK with myself afterwards?"

Remember, honesty and integrity aren't values that you should live by when it's convenient; they're values that you should live by all the time. This includes the big choices and the little choices – the choices everyone sees, and the choices that no one sees.

Step 3: Encourage Integrity

People with integrity often have the same characteristics: they're humble, they have a strong sense of self, they have high self-esteem, and they're self-confident. These characteristics are important, because, sometimes, you'll be under intense pressure from others to make the wrong choice.

Work on building and improving these characteristics within yourself, so that you have the strength and courage to do the right thing when the time comes. Build your self-confidence   and self-esteem  , and work on developing character  . Spend time getting to know yourself, and what you believe in. Develop friendships and work relationships with others who demonstrate integrity, and who will support your decisions.

Further Tips:

  • Learn how to be assertive  , so that you can defend an ethical position from an adult point of view, without whining or being aggressive.
  • Avoid white lies. They may seem harmless, but tiny lies are still lies. Always tell the truth.
  • Learn to take responsibility for your actions. If you make a mistake, own up to it immediately and do whatever it takes to right the situation.
  • Keep your word, and don't make promises that you know you can't keep.
  • Keep in mind that in times of fear, disaster and chaos, the temptation is even greater to make a wrong choice. Use these opportunities to demonstrate your true character.
  • Avoid seeming self-satisfied or priggish when you're acting with integrity: stay humble and down-to-earth, don't look for approval, and, where you sensibly can, try to let people save face.

So, how should Nancy, who we mentioned at the start of this article, have dealt with her boss?

She should have dealt with the situation assertively, right away. She could have asked for a private meeting and said something like, "I'm worried about this. Even if the product works, the clients will be upset when they see the damage, and they may not want to order from us again. And the shipping company will be annoyed, too, and we use them a lot. Wouldn't it be better to tell the truth?"

Key Points

Having integrity means that you live in accordance to your deepest values; you're honest with everyone, and you always keep your word.

Integrity is a highly valued trait, especially in leaders. When you live with integrity, you're more likely to be considered for important promotions and leadership positions.

To develop and protect your integrity, start by identifying your core values. These are the values that you refuse to compromise on, no matter what. Next, analyze every choice you make to ensure that you're doing the right thing.

Then, develop a culture of integrity around you; work on building your self-confidence and self-esteem; and develop relationships with others who live with integrity.

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Comments (6)
  • ladyb wrote Over a month ago
    Good for you April! I hope you feel very proud of your decision. It's the strong and capable among us who stand up for what they know is right. Your example is proof that it can be done.

    Thank you very much for sharing and for being who you are. Onward and upward!!

  • MichaelP wrote Over a month ago
    April, wow what a awful situation to be placed in. Congratulations on getting out. Like 'Nancy' integrity seams to be a BIG management problem I only hope these are exceptional examples.

    tks for sharing Cheers Michael
  • april123 wrote Over a month ago
    I have been in a situation where my boss at a previous company expected me to do something unethical. I had a huge problem with that. It resulted in a number of meetings and ended up in our relationship being damaged for ever. He felt I was being pedantic and I felt that he was being downright dishonest. The truth of the matter is that if I did what he asked me to, it could have led to criminal charges against the company...and guessed it - the perpetrator which would have been me. Unfortunately the other directors didn't have the guts to stand up to this guy. This whole situation was one of the deciding factors that led to my resignation there.

  • uncletom wrote Over a month ago
    Hi all I like bigK's view Nancy could do more.
    The boss has integrity issues...why should she accept them?
    She should go and inspect the damage...for sure her boss didn't bother!
    In the modern world take pics. Show them in advance? Be what a concept...

    I have found that being honest and open always pays...does Nancy's boss know the cost of replacing this shipment? The cost of losing the customer? The cost of tarnishing the reputation of the shipping company?

    All she seams focused on is 'softly' confronting her boss..this to me is focusing on the problem and not the solution and I am looking forward to see what others think?

    This is a learning opportunity and I hope to learn. Tks
  • bigk wrote Over a month ago

    Seems like she (Nancy) should certainly be asking or saying something about how she could help this manager better understand the importance or significance of these decisions.

    More actions are likely.

    Doing some research about this for more than just Nancy.

  • MichaelP wrote Over a month ago
    This is a very real dilemma in life and its much easier to say than do.

    In Nancy's options doing nothing is not an option and confronting her boss is certainly one of the doing options. I also think there are other things she could do showing her integrity in different ways and I wonder what suggestions our members can come up with.

    What would you do if you were Nancy?

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