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Think about this for a minute, because it may
happen more often than you think. How many times have you stayed up late reading
a novel that you "couldn't" put down, or watching a movie that you
couldn't turn off? How many times have you pushed yourself
harder after hearing the story of someone else's success, or
changed your opinion after reading a convincing article in a
magazine or newspaper?
There's no doubt that stories can change the
way we think, act, and feel. Leaders, especially, can use the
power of a good story to influence and motivate their teams to new
heights. Stories can inspire everything from understanding to
action. They can create legends that an entire workplace culture
can build upon, and they have the power to break down barriers and
turn a bad situation into a good one. Stories can capture our
imaginations and make things real in a way that cold, hard facts
can't.
Make no mistake - stories can be very, very
powerful leadership tools. Great leaders know this, and many top
CEOs today use stories to illustrate points and sell their ideas.
So, do you want to be a persuasive motivator?
If so, learn how to tell a good story. But how? When should you tell a
story, and how do you know what kind of story to tell to get the
results you want? This article summarizes our Expert Interview
with
Annette Simmons, author of "Whoever Tells the Best Story
Wins."
Types of Stories
Learn what kind of story to tell for different
situations. There are six main types of story that you can use
in the workplace:
"Who I Am" Stories - When you start leading a team, members of your new team sometimes make automatic judgments about who you are. They
may see you as controlling, mean, or "out to get them" without
really knowing you. If you tell a "Who I Am" story when you first
become a team leader, you can give a powerful insight into what really motivates you. This can break down walls and help your team realize
that you're a person just like them.
Your goal with a "Who I Am" story should be to reveal some type of
flaw about yourself or mistake that you've made. Why? Because by
revealing a flaw, you show your team that you trust them with this
information. Revealing flaws can also make you more approachable,
because it demonstrates that you're only human. (Just make sure
it's a small flaw!)
For example, the author often finds that when clients first meet
her, they assume that her primary goal is to sell them copies of
her book or more consulting time. She gets past this by explaining
that her dad was a social worker who wanted her to help others (while also being her own boss) and so felt she should go to law
school. She was so determined not to do this, that she moved to
Australia. This story has the double benefit of emphasizing that
she didn't grow up in privileged circumstances, and so actually
has a background similar to that of many of her clients, and also
that she might sometimes make slightly foolish decisions. After
all, emigrating to another continent is a rather extreme way of
getting out of going to law school!
"Why I'm Here" Stories - These are very similar to "Who I Am"
stories. The goal is to replace suspicion with trust, and help
your team realize that you don't have any hidden agendas. Show
that you're a good person, and that you want to work together with
them to achieve a common goal.
For example, a new member of the school board was appointed to the
sub-committee responsible for the head teacher's performance
management. In their first meeting, which looked at whether the
head had met her stated objectives in the past year, the new member
challenged the Head on several aspects of the proof presented.
After the meeting, the new board member approached the Head, and
explained "I'm sure you realize that my challenges are not
personal. And I think you're doing great work. However, my duty as
a board member is to ensure that the city's education budget is
being spent wisely, and so it's my job to ensure that bonuses are
only paid when there's a real justification for doing so." The
Head reassured her that she understood this perfectly, and was, in
fact, grateful for the rigor she had brought to the process.
Teaching Stories - It can be very hard to teach without
demonstrating, and that's the whole purpose of Teaching Stories.
There's no better example of this than Aesop's fables. Remember "The Boy
Who Cried Wolf"? This story alone has taught millions of children
not to yell for help unless there's a real need for it. Although
it's simple, like most fables, it's done an effective job for
centuries.
Use Teaching Stories to make a lesson clear and to help people
remember why they're doing something in the first place.
The author tells a more recent example to emphasize the value of
teaching stories. She was working with a nation wide chain of care
homes for the elderly. Many of the staff in these homes are young
and, with the best intentions, often use tones of voice that are
more suitable for addressing young children than elderly people.
The challenge was to get these young staff to remember to use
respectful tones of voice. She achieved this by telling the story
of her own grandmother, who suffered a stroke and was unable to
speak. After some months, she gave up eating because she had
decided she would rather die than live without dignity, because of
the patronizing way in which her carers spoke to her.
Vision Stories - Tell these to inspire hope, especially when
your team needs occasional reminders of why they're doing what
they should be doing.
Vision Stories are meant to stimulate action and raise morale.
Find a story that reminds everyone what the ultimate goal is, and
why it's important that everyone reaches that goal. This type of
story should be told from your heart, with emotion.
The author shares her own vision story, which is one of human
beings saving the planet from ecological disaster by working
together. She drew on the importance of embedding this
collaborative approach in society when she was at the airport
recently, and her plane was delayed for the third time. While it
would have been tempting to take out her frustration on the
airline staff, remembering the importance of helping others to
work collaboratively helped her calm her emotions.
"Values in Action" Stories - When you see the word "integrity,"
what do you think of? Honesty? Doing the right thing for the right
reason?
Every value can mean something different from person to person. If
you want to pass on values to your team, start by defining what
those values mean to you. So, if you want your team to demonstrate
a high level of customer service, then tell a story that reveals
exactly what customer service means to you.
For example, a chain of opticians ran an advertising campaign that
offered to replace glasses with a new style if customers
didn't like the frames when they got them home. Now
this led to the transaction costing the optician money in most
cases. However, the manager at one store regularly told his staff
about a customer who had taken advantage - most apologetically -
of the offer, but then not only remained loyal to that optical chain for
years, but also recommended the chain to her family and friends.
As a result, the small loss on one transaction bought the chain
many profitable purchases in the future.
"I Know What You're Thinking" Stories - The world of business
involves frequent bargaining. The advantage of telling this type
of story is that you can recognize another person's objections,
and then show why those objections aren't applicable in this
situation. You can show respect for the other point of view while
convincing the person that you're right.
For example, a saleswoman in children's shoe store convinces a mom
to buy a pair of premium-priced shoes by explaining that if her
child doesn't find his new shoes comfortable after a week, she can
bring them back for an exchange or refund. This is the case even though the shoes
would be worn and couldn't be resold. The saleswoman backs
this up by telling of one customer who did that just last week,
although she was the only customer whose child hadn't loved the
shoes.
Tips
Keep these suggestions in mind when telling your stories:
Be authentic - The best storytellers talk from their hearts, so
don't try to fake an emotion that you don't feel. Your listeners
will probably see through this, and your story will crash and burn.
Pay attention to your audience - Stories that are too long are
generally boring. Tell the story well, but don't
go on forever.
Practice - Try to practice before you tell the story. Even if
you tell it to yourself just once in front of a mirror or video
camera, this can help you when you're in front of your real
audience.
Create an experience - Remember that when you tell a story, you're
creating an experience for your listeners. Don't just use sound
(words), but the other senses as well. Show your listeners the
picture you're painting, don't just tell them.
For example, it's easy to tell people that it's snowing outside.
But if you want your listeners to really experience the snow, then
describe how cold it is and the way the wind blows snow into your
eyes. Tell them how you dream of a hot cup of cocoa after you're
done shoveling snow in your driveway, and how your toes freeze
because your boots aren't warm enough. Try to engage the five
senses in every story: taste, touch, sight, hearing, and smell.
They'll make your story come alive.
Key Points
Stories can be powerful leadership tools - if they're told
well.
Know which kind of story to tell, and spend time
brainstorming some good ideas for each type of situation.
Remember, you're creating an experience for your listeners, so
focus on using at least two or three senses when you tell your
story. Create interest, and draw your listeners in. Show them what
you're saying, don't just tell them.
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